How to pick The Church?

My fiancé is Christian and so we decided a church wedding is what both of us wanted. I was christened and went to church as a child but hadn’t been in a while (only on Christmas eve), so I was a bit lost when it came to this so went straight to Google!

I read a lot about how they have changed the rules recently and you can only legally marry in the church within your parish, if you want to marry outside of your parish you must establish a qualifying connection or relationship.

To establish a connection we must have:

  1.  lived in the parish for 6 months at some point
  2. been baptised (christened) in the parish concerned, or is confirmed and your confirmation was entered in the register of confirmations for a church or chapel in the parish (this will usually be the case if you were prepared for confirmation in the parish)
  3. at any time regularly gone to normal church services in the parish church for a period of at least 6 months

or it could be that one of our parents:

  1. has lived in the parish for a period of at least 6 months
  2. has regularly gone to normal church services in the parish church for a period of at least 6 months

With the venue for the reception being in Teddingotn we really wanted the church to be close , preferably walking distance for our guests. When we realised we had to marry in our parish we were a bit disappointed, but at the time I thought that was our only option.

The church in our parish is a lovely little church and we attended the service one Sunday to get a feel for it before we decided to get married there. The service was very traditional and we left feeling a bit more optimistic about getting married there but still not fully satisfied.

Luckily, I was chatting to the religious studies teacher in school (yes, I am a teacher) and she recommended that I just contact the church we wanted to get married in (even if it wasn’t in our parish) and see what they said. I reached out via email and we had a positive response, they were happy to book us in to marry at the church as long as we would attend once a month over the next 6 month period – what a relief.

The church we have chosen is big enough for 200 guests to sit comfortably and it is much brighter and lighter inside, which gives it a happy vibe which is what we want for our special day. It’s an understatement to say we were over the moon that we could book this church and I have to give credit to my wonderful fiancé who recommended this church in the first place. So, shout out to him! 🙂

If you are interested in costs of church weddings here is a basic break down:

Legal fees: – 425

Wedding certificate – 4 each

Publication of Banns (a must for church weddings) – 28

Vergers – 30 each

Other costs could include organist, sound deck, heating(during winter) and bells after the service.

So if you are dreaming of a church wedding, be realistic about the total cost (between 400-600) and don’t be put off by having to marry in your parish. Most churches are positive, friendly and open to finding way you can marry in the church of your choice.


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